How Do We Love Ourselves in a Fallen World?

Ladies, what does loving ourselves, truly loving ourselves, look like?

By design, women were placed on this Earth to be in relationship with spouses and to bear and care for the children. For many centuries, men provided while women were caretakers. David Murrow described society’s structure well discussing the days of long ago before Jesus:

“There were no standing armies, police forces or welfare programs to
prevent this suffering…Men were indispensable in earlier times because they
possessed the physical strength to raise crops, hunt animals
and fight wars…..If men failed to hunt, women and children
starved. If men failed to protect, women and children were
slaughtered.” (What Your Husband Isn’t Telling You by David Murrow, p.38)

You are probably wondering why I quoted this book. I think it’s important to remember why women are built to pour love into others. We were placed by God to be the emotional center of the home, while men were granted the physical tasks. God, the knower of all hearts and needs, is fully aware some women today are bound by untruths, doubting their worth to care for themselves let alone others.

Let’s delve headfirst today and put love into our own hearts first.


Do I hear doubt and justification why we shouldn’t go there?

Maybe Eve holds us back from focusing on ourselves. In her shadow, we recall how the minute she followed a whim…a desire… her own want…our entire existence fell into suffering.

Maybe Satan is whispering about lack of Scripture to support such folly. Maybe Satan is telling you that you are not worthy of love, even from yourself.

Let’s turn our eyes immediately to Our Jesus who came to save us, not judge us. What does Scripture say about loving ourselves?

Reading Colossians, I am in awe of Paul who suffered greatly but wrapped His life in Jesus to focus on sharing the Good News. He didn’t falter with the “thorn in his flesh” or beatings. He stood firm in His Jesus-driven purpose, pouring into others along the way. He spoke of imperfect human love, which in Jesus is made perfect.

“Make allowances for each other’s faults, and forgive anyone
who offends you. Remember, the Lord forgave you, so you must
forgive others. Above all, clothe yourselves with love, which binds
us all together in perfect harmony. And let the peace that comes from
Christ rule in your hearts.” (Colossians 3:13-15, NLT Study Bible 2008)

We cannot love anyone on our own, including ourselves. Our Spiritual Father tells us all to dress in His love, to forgive as He forgives and accept the peace of Jesus. Needing, receiving, emulating Christ. We were not meant to love ourselves or others in a vacuum of time and space absent of God.

Choose Jesus’ warmth to fill your hearts and minds every day.

Seek Jesus’ face when you are filled with self-doubt.

Reach for Jesus’ hand when you want to change a lie to Truth.

Breathe and pray to the Keeper of All Peace and The Creator of Love in its purest form.

Walking alone without God for many years, though I may have succeeded in self-sufficiency, I was lonely and love-starved. I make every effort to do the things above, securing my faith in the One who gives Life. I choose to leave Satan’s overgrown path of quickly sinking sand far behind me.

If we focus again on traditional roles, yes, we women have responsibilities to others and sacrifices to make. Does this scenario mimic our love for Jesus, who asks us to pick up the cross and follow?

When we love Jesus, we ARE loving ourselves.


When we make Him our first sacrifice of the day [prayer, devotion, praise, worship], He quickly responds with a shower of new mercies. If we accept His cherished rain, our cup overfills, leaving plenty to share with spouses, children, friends, or anyone placed in our path that day.

We are worth His time, His energy, His everlasting love.

The more you seek Him, the more you are allowing love into yourself. Place yourself by His side, touch his healing robe, and walk with Him. He will never forsake you.
Do you struggle with loving yourself? Do you have support in the form of a prayer partner, pastor, friend, or counselor? If you found this blog post helpful, I invite you to leave a comment here. Certainly, like and share if you feel it would help others. Be strong in Him. He loves you.

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4 thoughts on “How Do We Love Ourselves in a Fallen World?

  1. Sigh…My strength was wearing thin today, Thanks for being that life boat and showing up just when this daughter needed a reminder from her sister today. Praising Him for the meeter of My needs!

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  2. You touch my heart every time I read what you have written. Thank you for sharing the insights the Holy Spirit has shared with you! The Lord has given you a wonderful gift. Thank you for not being afraid to use that gift to honor Jesus!

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