Healing for Women Who Have Suffered Abuse: Guest Post by Konnie Viner

Welcome to my blog! It is the year of celebrating the power of story, and May is the month I am celebrating freedom. If you are struggling to feel free and need prayer, please email me at juliedibblespeaks@gmail.com.

It is an honor to introduce my friend Konnie Viner today. We met a little over a year ago on the way to a writing conference. At that time, we didn’t know each other’s stories. In His powerful way, He entwined our writing hearts, bringing our souls closer together. We have become encouragers, supporting each other’s healing walk in the freedom Jesus provides. Konnie’s bio and book information is at the end of her hope-filled message to women.


Dear friend, have you been devastated by abuse or betrayal?


Or have you been trying to encourage a friend, family member or co-worker who has lost hope in the midst of emotional pain?

God’s faithfulness seems elusive when abuse and betrayal cause devastating emotional storms of brokenness. It’s been said that it takes years to build trust and seconds to break it. If you or someone you know has experienced the wounds of abuse or betrayal, you know that to be painfully true. The deepest wounds come from the closest relationships.

Abuse and betrayal break the covenant of love and trust, instantly forcing us to deal with confusion, disrespect, lies, secrets, rejection, fear, loneliness, and shame.

Devastating physical storms are caused by external forces and survival becomes the primary goal. But this emotional storm of brokenness is caused by damaging internal forces; by one who promised to love, honor, and protect. Do you wonder if you or your friend will survive emotionally? Resist hopelessness; there is always hope in the Lord!

Which storm has brought devastation?

• Is it a dust storm of accusations that blind us to the truth of our value?
• Is it sudden lightning strikes of slaps, punches, or kicks causing fear and shame?
• Is it an ice storm of unrelenting verbal abuse which has frozen emotions?
• Is it a storm surge of anxiety and panic caused by rejection and broken trust?
• Is it a cold blizzard of loneliness and despair?
• Or is it the unsettling calm just before the dark tornado of anger whirls again into confusion and chaos?

A friend once asked, “How does an emotionally wounded woman move from victim to victorious?”

I hadn’t thought about that question before, but I knew what Jehovah Rapha, my Healer, was using to heal me.

Without hesitation, I answered, “Looking for God’s faithfulness every day!” Affirming his faithfulness was the key that unlocked hope in my storm of brokenness. And God will be faithful to unlock hope for you, your friend, or loved one.

Faithful love is His nature, proclaimed in Jeremiah 31:3 (NIV):

“I have loved you with an everlasting love; I have drawn you with unfailing kindness.”

Because God has created us with resilient hearts, the rebuilding process starts soon after every physical storm.

Damages need to be assessed, the cost of rebuilding is estimated, and people are gathered to help with the process.


And so it is with emotional storms of brokenness. The victim must break free from denial, assess the damage, gather support from trusted friends and family, and begin to rebuild her life. Now can be the time to take the huge leap into reality, recognize and destroy the lies that have crippled emotions, and begin a journey into emotional and spiritual health.

“My comfort in my suffering is this:
Your promise preserves my life.”
Psalm 119:50

Rested Soul Resilient Heart, Finding Hope in the Storms of Abuse and Betrayal was written to encourage wounded hearts and increase faith in God, the only One who loves unconditionally. There will be difficult decisions ahead, but Jesus is the true anchor that holds securely in every storm. God can be trusted to provide safety and lasting hope through the painful emotional storms.

He can be trusted to heal the pain of the past and provide guidance for the future.


There are several steps in the rebuilding process: learning how to trust in God’s plan, setting healthy boundaries, developing and maintaining a safety plan, building a support network, managing stress, grieving losses, and refocusing on God’s faithfulness.

The eight-week journey includes:
Week 1: Devastated—Assess the Damage
Week 2: Deceived—Abandon the Lies
Week 3: Distressed—Address Fears
Week 4: Defined—Appropriate God’s Promises
Week 5: Drawn—Affirm Worth
Week 6: Determined—Accept God’s Plan
Week 7: Derailed—Avoid Future Traps
Week 8: Devoted—Abide in His Presence

Jesus, our Sunshine, brings hope through prayer and trust in His promises. He alone can still the most devastating emotional storms.

We can have an eternal, intimate, loving relationship with the Creator of the universe and abide daily in His presence!

He will faithfully provide guidance for emotional and physical safety.

His promises are true!

He can be trusted to heal the devastating effects of abuse and betrayal.

God is the only One who can heal deep soul-wounds; He promises rest and strength.

“Yes, my soul, find rest in God; my hope comes from him. Truly he is my rock and my salvation; he is my fortress, I will not be shaken.”
Psalm 62:5-6

A painful journey, which began in brokenness, can end in renewed trust as God faithfully provides rest for weary souls and strength for broken hearts.

When the Road Turned

When the road turned … the road of my life,
It led to where I never dreamt: a road of fear and strife.
When the road turned … and left the path of peace,
Was I not still faithful, and praying without cease?
When the road turned … and a victim I became,
Was I not still seeking Him, His glory to proclaim?
When the road turned … and life seemed so unfair,
Was my Savior still watching? Or did He no longer care?
When the road turned … and I cried … alone, oppressed,
Hold me, Jesus, help me! From this pain grant me rest!
When the road turned … so weary … now He carries me.
Not my path, but Yours, by Your mercy I am free!
by Konnie Viner

“Praise be to the Lord, to God our Savior, who daily bears our burdens.”
Psalm 68:19

Rested Soul, Resilient Heart – Finding Hope in the Storms of Abuse and Betrayal can be purchased at the following websites:

Westbow Press Bookstore http://bookstore.westbowpress.com/Products/SKU-001122559/Rested-Soul-Resilient-Heart.aspx

About the author:

Konnie Viner is writing to encourage women who have been traumatized by abuse, betrayal, or divorce. Rested Soul, Resilient Heart was written to help women find hope and healing by trusting in God’s unconditional love and faithfulness. During her storms of brokenness, she journaled desperate prayers and God faithfully provided wisdom, strength, and healing. She is a former crisis center advocate, founder of a ministry for abuse victims, and leader of abuse support groups. Konnie is a former secondary education teacher and tutor. She has a B.S. in Education from the University of Kansas and M.S. in Business Management from the University of Redlands, CA. She is self-employed in New Hampshire and loves spending time with her children and grandchildren.


Did you think of someone while reading this post? Please share the blog and the book with someone whom you know is on this journey.

Coming next week, my Love Lessons from Above and another author guest post!

In the meantime, I would love to connect with you.





2 thoughts on “Healing for Women Who Have Suffered Abuse: Guest Post by Konnie Viner

  1. Thanking Jesus for you and the message you bring to those who are living in an emotional prison. You are leading the blind and confused to Jesus who offers hope and healing. I celebrate YOU, daughter of our great King. You sought Jesus in your suffering and He showed you who you are in Christ; He brought goodness out of pain. I celebrate your faith, courage and perseverance to honor and love Jesus. In honoring Him, He has honored you and made you whole. He breathed His life in you, revived you and has set you in a place of leading the broken to wholeness. You are working with Jesus to set prisoners free; you are His voice of freedom. The Holy Spirit has anointed you to partner with Jesus, to preach good news to the poor. He has sent you to bind up the brokenhearted, to proclaim freedom for the captives and release from darkness for the prisoners….to comfort all who mourn…to bestow on them a crown of beauty instead of ashes, the oil of gladness instead of mourning and a garment of praise instead of a spirit of despair. They will be called oaks of righteousness, a planting of the Lord for the display of His splendor (from Isaiah 61:1-4). May God bless you, all that you have done to lift Him up. I pray for the harvest of abundant fruit that will come for the glory of Jesus and His kingdom for many generations to come!!!!!


    • Kim, thank you for your kind, encouraging words. And thank you also for joining with me in prayer that those still living in an emotional prison will be set free and made whole by our Lord! To God be the glory; great things He has done!

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