But whenever someone turns to the Lord, the veil is taken away. 2 Corinthians 3:16
I hit the pits of pathetic last summer. My needy soul stood naked as Jesus stripped away every probable pretense, lie and denial put in place to protect.
Like an exposed nerve, I trembled at the thought of NOT belonging …
In the online police wife groups
In the online writing groups
In the social media world, in general
Part of me wanted to try harder, spend more time online, offer more support in hopes of settling in the sweet spot of welcome and wanted.
Most of me wondered what’s wrong with me?
My pitiful soul stuck in a poor me litany.
Sleep was dreamed
Pleas desperately prayed
Nakedly waited His glory displayed
It wasn’t until the counselor asked me to write a letter to my ten-year old self that we discovered the bitter lonely root, the unloving origin of fear of never belonging.
At my deepest core, I felt abandoned by caregivers and by God.
There it was. Hidden, denied, well-protected truth out for me to see, to process, to own. Taking His faithful hand, I sought the place where Truth would overcome the fear and the lie that God had forsaken me.
For the love of Jesus, waterworks in the midst of fireworks galore!
THE missing puzzle piece to the old hole in your soul is worth celebrating!
His wisdom flooded my heart and mind, washed my insecurities away.
You have already been pruned and purified by the message I have given you. John 15:3
I am His, always have been, even before I knew Him.
You made all the delicate, inner parts of my body and knit me together in my mother’s womb. Psalm 139:13
As God will do with any tearing and stripping, He offers again the ever-present invitation to lean into Him so close you can smell the dust and dirt collected on His journey to Samaria.
Remain in me, and I will remain in you. For a branch cannot produce fruit if it is severed from the vine, and you cannot be fruitful unless you remain in me. John 15:4
So, my dear friends, I share this because I know I cannot be the only one whose past had a hold of her present. I share because He is our living Hope in every life circumstance. I share because I want you to know He sees your struggle and wants to help you heal, so let Him in. He has an appointment waiting for you.
I tell of this because that feeling deep down in my soul of being unloved and unwanted had a tremendous impact on my current life. I struggled to stand firm on Christ cornerstone because my broken attention turned to the possible or real rejection, the social door closing rather than the one opening.
My counselor pointed out “not everything is happening personally to you, Julie. And I wish I could walk beside you and point out all the love coming at you.”
Truly, I had not always and forever been so needy. It was a very specific shedding of the old in a very specific timeframe orchestrated by God. He took care to provide me two friends who walked with me, guided me, prayed for me, hugged me in a healing way. Amazing grace how sweet the sound. I once was lost and now I am found.
Join me tomorrow for the lessons I learned on how to thrive on social media, thinking less me and more other, a connecting rather than a taking, a circle rather than a race.
Are you struggling with a sense of belonging in any area of your life? Do you doubt your worth? It is only God who can draw us up to stand tall in our faith. However, if you need a sounding board or a prayer, please email me at firstname.lastname@example.org
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May your souls be warm as your fuzziest blanket.