I was never one to wear a lot of make-up. When I finally decided to go short, I spent a lot of money on my hair to be like Jennifer Aniston, to name one unrealistic comparison I coveted.
Vanity lived inside of me as a mental scale, forever monitoring numbers. Taking the health of my body for granted, my goal was to see little to no fat.
From college though my early 30’s, skimpy tops and mini skirts were common in my wardrobe.
No matter how thin I got, I always wanted to be more voluptuous, more sexy.
Vanity=attention from men, a “love” I thought could only be bought with a price … or an exchange.
During periods of depression in my 20’s, I would overeat and oversleep. When I came up for breath, I would hate myself for ignoring my figure. The cold hard facts were I might have gained two pounds.
Was I anorexic? No, I never stopped eating.
Was I bulimic? No, I never considered this as an option.
During the first half of our marriage, Jason “diagnosed” me with body dysmorphic disorder.
That was before I knew Our Mighty God who saves with unimaginable love and transforms:
Charm is deceptive and beauty is fleeting, but a woman who fears the Lord will be praised (Proverbs 31:30).
Pride and vanity are related:
Vanity and pride are different things though the words are often used synonymously. A person may be proud without being vain. Pride relates more to our opinion of ourselves, vanity to what we would have others things of us. ~Jane Austen, Pride and Prejudice
Remember my reason for desiring a thin body?
The irony is in those days I was stuffed with pride and vanity but my soul’s worth still suffered.
Pretending to be superior or really believing your are superior to others … does it matter when relating to someone else?
Turn my eyes away from worthless things, preserve my life according to Your Word (Psalm 119:37).
It is difficult in the world to avoid temptations to be vain or prideful.
Around every corner, there is a billboard drawing us in to someone else’s profit. With every click on social media, you can see an image of someone sounding their own trumpet at the gate of Heaven.
Our God describes vanity with disdain:
What are you doing, you devastated one?
Why dress yourself in scarlet and put on jewels of gold?
Why highlight your eyes with makeup?
You adorn yourself in vain.
Your lovers despise you;
They want to kill you (Jeremiah 4:30).
Even though here God uses the metaphor of a vain woman for his disobedient Israel, His Word is alive and speaks to us today.
Is God saying don’t wear make-up?
Does He forbid jewelry?
No, what He abhors is vanity in this passage.
And we know what happens to those who stay prideful … they trip and fall no matter what shoes they have chosen to match their outfit (Proverbs 16:18).
Our life is a gift. He means for us to take care of ourselves. When we follow His lead and submit to His thoughts, we find our focus not to be on how we look but how we act.
It is not the outfit but the kindness.
It is not the weight loss or gain but the soul inside.
It is not the aging body with silver hair, it is how closely we walk with Jesus.
Thank you for all followers here, new and continuing! It is a privilege to be able to share the messages God gives me. I welcome your comments here.
Join me later this week for the guest post of my friend Jen. She will share of her physical and family challenges and how God has seen her through.
A poetry reading and discussion is up today at https://Facebook.com/jdibble4Him, tomorrow is Warrior Wednesday.
A new poem called Walk and Abide is up at https://faithhopeandpoetry.blog
Have a blessed night.
In Christ Alone,