The Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him” (Genesis 2:18).
After God gave Adam the job of naming the animals, Scripture says,
“But for Adam no suitable helpers was found. So the Lord God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, He took one of the man’s ribs and then closed up the place with flesh. Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib He had taken out of the man, and He brought her to the man” (Genesis 2:20-22).
This was the first marriage.
Created and ordained by our most holy God.
It is beautiful to me as I read this again. God’s heart, loving his son Adam, knew it wasn’t good for him to be alone. God knew one day He would send His one and only Son, who would at times in his humanness feel alone. He didn’t want that pain for Adam.
What an incredible gift that women were created to be joined as one flesh with the man He chooses.
God brings the woman to the man (this is why I pray for wives for Braedon and Jackson).
Though I did not believe in God, I can look back and see through heaven’s lense how He chose Jason for me.
Upon our first meeting, God led me right to Jason. With outstretched hand, I introduced myself.
God knew my backstory.
God knew when I was a lonely soul, that when I was young I could not trust my parents to protect me.
He chose Jason.
God made Jason a protector of many. Jason willingly went into the Airforce to protect freedom for all Americans.
Jason asked me to marry him after he graduated basic training. Before his first (and only) assignment to Aviano, Italy, we were husband and wife. The military recognized us as one and paid for both of us to travel to our new home.
Sinve then, we have had several “new homes” as Jason left the military after three years and became a police officer, whose mantra is to serve and protect.
The man said,
“This is now bone of my bones
and flesh of my flesh;
she shall be called ‘woman’
for she was taken out of man” (Genesis 2:23).
For many years, I had little idea of what it meant to be one flesh.
That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh (Genesis 2:24).
Now God has lifted the veil, given me eyes to see my husband as protector of me, of my heart, of my life.
Jason double-Dibble checks my car to make sure it is locked. He is the first to notice a mark, a wound, a skin affliction on his wife. His hands were often on my belly as I carried our sons. With those same hands, Jason holds my cheeks as he looks into my soul through my eyes. Biblically speaking, my flesh is Jason’s flesh. He takes care of me.
In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself (Ephesians 5:28).
Over the past several months, Jason and I have grown closer, turning toward each other and God more consistently than before. A delicate, yet firm proclamation of who we are as a married couple in Christ. Dating each other at home and on hikes, reading our devotional and praying.
Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ (Ephesians 5:20).
Because God is taking front and center in our marriage, the evil one has antagonized, pushed and prodded.
Just as God prunes our individual lives, discarding non-fruit-bearing branches, so He will do with your marriage.
God wants to remain first in each of your hearts (Mark 12:30-31), but then He wants your marriage to be next (Ephesians 5:22-25).
Even good things can threaten your union. Like Paul says, just because it is good does not mean it is beneficial or constructive (1 Corinthians 10:23).
Children, careers, ministry … satan will use countless temptations to lure you to replace, disrupt, stir up conflict in your marriage.
Because He loves you and has ordained your marriage, He will guide your steps. Help each of you be accountable to His Word.
Direct my footsteps according to Your Word; let no sin rule over me (Psalm 119:133).
Earlier this week, Jason came to me in the middle of the night, crediting God for his lack of sleep. Jason knew he had to speak to me, and that we had to take action to guard our marriage.
This is how the husband protects the wife.
He honors God first, treats his bride as Christ treats His. Selfless acts. Speaks truth in love. Prays with her and for her.
Oh Lord, help me serve my husband well. Help me submit to his Godly protection of my physical body and our spiritual union. Thank you, Jesus, for guiding Jason to lead our marriage to more fruitful ground. Thank you, Father, for giving me Jason.
Adam and his wife were both naked and they felt no shame (Genesis 2:25).
Though sin entered into marriage, nothing can alter what God has made (Isaiah 14:27). When you both stand on that promise, when you both love God with all your heart, He protects you. Abiding under His wings, you and your husband have no shame, rather full permission from heaven to be vulnerable … sharing flesh and heart-ponders with each other and Him (have you read Song of Songs?).
Your lives are not separate but infused, bound by abundant grace. His grace is the fuel for the fire of love and passion to persist. We cannot help but forgive each other when we have been saved by grace alone … over and over again.
Because Jason loves Me, I will rescue him. I will protect him for he acknowledges My name. Jason will call on Me, and I will answer him. I will be with Jason in times of trouble, I will deliver him and honor him. With long life, I will satisfy Jason and show him My salvation (Psalm 91:14-16).
Because Julie loves me, I will rescue her. I will protect her for she acknowledges My name. Julie will call on Me, and I will answer her. I will be with Julie in times of trouble, I will deliver her and honor her. With long life, I will satisfy Julie and show her My salvation (Psalm 91:14).
And as if I can hear our Father in heaven whispering now,
To my children whom I love, marriage is heaven’s gift, a union when connected to Us works in synchrony like My Son, Spirit and Me. For there are things you cannot know, marriage is as much a mystery as is the Trinity. Keep seeking, and you shall find. Bind faithfulness and love around your neck. Give first to Me, then your spouse. For I have walked all your years before you. Stay close to Me, I am with you until the end of the age.
Thank you so much for being here with me and Jason today.
I am in complete awe how powerful the Scripture of Creation is. To be the first man or first woman, to be naked in a beautiful garden and basking in the Father’s love.
All Scripture is God-breathed and useful for teaching, rebuking, correcting and training in righteousness, so that the servant of God may be thoroughly equipped for every good work (2 Timothy 3:16-17).
It is useful to go back to Creation and learn about God in the beginning. The sad reality of Adam and Eve living a long, hard life has continued in the flesh. But those of us baptized in the Spirit can raise a hallelujah because we have been saved by Our Living Hope, Jesus Christ.
Jason and I are far from perfect human beings. We have suffered through seasons in marriage colored by regret and emotional unrest. I understand Jason and I may walk through more hard times before we leave this life. However this is my faithful trust in God. We both have our feet planted in His truth and are learning how to receive His great love into our marriage, AND we believe nothing will destroy what God has planned. Our marriage is under the protection of our Almighty Lion who defeated death.
How did this post speak to you?
Are you in a season of marital bliss or hardship?
Are you single wondering about His plans for your marriage?
If you need prayer, please don’t hesitate to email me at email@example.com.
If you are interested in joining a gathering to read Psalm 18:1-24 this Monday at 10am Eastern time, go to https://Facebook/.com/jdibble4Him. I will teach a mini lesson on whatever God gives me, I will read the psalm and invite thsoe who gather to share how He is speaking or what jumps out. We close with prayer. Time may take between 20-40 minutes, depending upon Holy Spirit!
All photos in this post are mine. Jason took me to a rail trail this past week, and we walked around 3.8 miles of it. We plan to go back when we have more time and investigate how far it is from PA to MD 🙂
Have a beauty-full day no matter the weather.
Love in Christ,