Maybe you waited until after Christmas to open gifts with your spouse, too. It was all we could do to get stuff for our young men ready for Christmas morning after the magnitude of plumbing, health and financial issues that hit before December 25th.
It seemed like a good idea at the time. Make it an at-home date, snuggle and bless each other.
I don’t know. We got rid of our curbside Christmas tree because its needles covered more of the floor than its branches.( For your future information, we donated our tree to a farm with goats. Apparently goats love pine needles!) With online school and Jason’s schedule, there were no immediate available time slots when we would have the house to ourselves.
Last night, though both tired, we rallied. Put on the twinkly lights, let the boys know we were staying downstairs (past all our bedtimes) to open each other’s gifts. With my Santa hat and some Christmas jams, I hopped around, waiting for Jason. He made two piles of our gifts, his and hers.
“Oh, sorry. I didn’t get many things for your stocking.”
His was full. Mine was not.
I didn’t mind, but he did.
Jason confessed he forgets about the stocking, and this year with mostly online shopping he really struggled.
Truly, I was so thank-full to be sitting alone with my husband, doing something just for us. I am certain we are not the only couple who has been date-deficient in the midst of this pandemic.
Somewhere along this journey of marriage and family, we decided in our house only one person opens at a time. The intimacy in gift-giving is bumped up several notches when the giver gets to share the back story while the opener has time and space to receive.
Jason opened a book hand-picked for him. Mixed in his array were three things each of my guys got from Santa this year. A faith shirt, a Christmas shirt and Christmas socks.
“Everyone needs Christmas-wear,” I chimed but quickly explained I will not repeat this same trifecta next year. It seemed to take a little away from the personalization. I felt a twinge of guilt about that.
As I opened each delight from the man who took me as his wife 17 years ago, I had the overwhelming sense that Jason sees me. He knows me. He honors how I am wired:
that I “need” sleep socks year-round ~
that I “need” coffee each morning ~ (that box smelled fantastic!)
that I “need” to be warm when walking or hiking in the cold ~
that I get little-kid excited about Christmas ~ Jason plopped this package in front of me and said, “I am proud of this one”. Was praying I would LOVE it when he said that. Who knew some smart person thought to mix the North Pole with a snuggly fabric and add a HOOD? Oh the joy! Not only will I replace my old not-so-fuzzy robe, but I will also keep a little Christmas spirit going year-round.
that I LOVE my Jesus ~ I sent Jason the link to these shoes not feeling too sure he would go forth. Lest I doubt my observant husband who sneaked around to find my sneaker size (which for women could be different than our boot or heel size). I could tell he was worried they wouldn’t fit. They did. I look forward to wearing them as I walk out my calling in Him.
Jason saw me. Honored all of me. The whimsical, the adventuresome, the Daughter of God.
He, the bridegroom. I, the bride.
I am so thankful for how God softened my heart after I succumbed to bitterness in my 30’s.
For it is only a soft, porous heart who can absorb her husband’s goodness, who can free-fall into the depth of their pure union under the wings of heaven.
A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person ~ Mignon McLaughlin
Take time to refresh connection with the one you love. Share the God-given gift of grace that flows between you as a river flows through mountains. Celebrate each other often, not just on birthdays or Christmas (though those are good too:)
Keep your eyes open, hold tight to your convictions, give it all you’ve got, be resolute, and love without stopping (1 Corinthians 16: 13-14 MSG).
Thank you for walking this life alongside me.
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In His love and for His glory,